Wednesday, September 9, 2009

Just an Imagination: "Yente's World" within the Toldot Aharon Community

B"H

We all know about the "abusive mother" from Mea Shearim starving or not starving her three - year - old son almost to death. We know about her claims of being innocent and we have heard enough statements from the police, the social workers and the Hadassah Ein Kerem Hospital.
This week, the court is going to decide whether the mother is allowed to stay at home with her children until her trial starts or if she has to spend her house arrest again somewhere else without her kids.
So far the facts and opinions we know about.

What I have been asking myself for quite a while is how the woman (this mother) has changed. I don't know if people are allowed publishing her name or not. However, I will call her by her first name and leave out the family name.

Yente grew up within the extreme Toldot Aharon society and comes from a well - established old Yerushalmi family. At least according to her maiden name. Until the whole incident started, her life had been just as the life of any other woman from the Chassidut Toldot Aharon. We all know about such a life: Religious girl's school, growing up, Shidduch, getting married and having children. Not to forget about being modest in any way, pious and saying Tehillim on time.

A woman who has never been exposed to the secular world (except for maybe going to a secular store in downtown Jerusalem) suddenly finds herself in all the news. The media is around her, lawyers, rabbis, the public …
How does she deal with that ?
Of course, first, everything may be so new and secular. Laws, cameras, computers, judges, cops. But maybe there is also some kind of excitement in it despite all the secular issues around. Excitement about getting attention. Suddenly all these rabbis are talking to her. The whole haredi world knows about Yente. The secular world curses her and calls her a criminal mother but never mind. Yente is famous. Not in the best way but, nevertheless, she is in the headlines.

A whole new world is opening up and forget about "guilty" or "no guilty", Yente learns how to deal with cops, lawyers and even the press.
Then she comes home and what does she see ?
The Toldot Aharon women, her neighbours, still being involved in the "old life" in the Mea Shearim backyard "Batei Hungarin".
"Wow, Yente is back from jail or house arrest. Let's go and visit her. Ask how things are going and give her some support against the Zionist court system".

But Yente has seen "the world". An entirely new world she formerly had heard about but never experienced. Does this have an effect on her ?
Maybe she looks down on the women in the backyard ? What do they know about life ?
And maybe she even looks down on some of the rabbis in her community ? What do they know about how to fight the system and how to get your picture into the newspaper ?

Does the community allow Yente to tell the other women about the different world she has experienced ? What if Yente is getting a high self - esteem from all that ? And then what ?
What is the Toldot Aharon community going to do with her ? What is the men's world going to do with her ?
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As I said in my headline:
All this is just a thought or an imagination. However, the present position of Yente in her community would be interesting to know.

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